The “ov” life hack

lifehackAn extraordinary thing happened today.

Actually several extraordinary things happened today.

A friend introduced me to some new people during an inspired life celebration for Mary Louise Mussoline, a woman who lived wholeheartedly, leaving the world and the city of Milwaukee better than she found it.

When asked during the introduction how we knew each other, he responded, “We’re heart friends.”

Not, “oh we worked together on xyz project” or, “we met during the xyz event” rather “we’re heart friends.”


Following Mary Louise’s life celebration, complete with a dance party hosted by Radio Milwaukee, the news of Al Jarreau’s death was breaking.


On the day in which Mary Louise’s exceptional life and her ability to utilize music as a vehicle for unity in this racially divided city was being celebrated, the brilliantly talented artist, musician and Milwaukee native Al Jarreau’s life, also using music as change agent, came to an end.

Upon returning home I listened to Al Jarreau’s “We’re in this love together.”

Not “we’re in this life together.” Something much more profound – we’re in this love together – we’re heart friends.

In order to extraordinarily live each day being the change you want for the world, like Milwaukee’s own Mary Louise Mussoline and Al Jarreau, it takes a little life hack – changing up the rhythm of life to the rhythm of love.

Together, as perfectly perfect heart friends, we are indeed in this stressful, politically and socially challenging, gorgeously messy, love together.

As Mary Louise’s dance party was coming to an end, another friend shared this pearl he had learned regarding life and death: “I greet you from the other side. With a love so vast and shattered it will reach you everywhere.”

Go. Do. Be – in this life of love together.

photo credit: monsieurlam Divide : My Favorite Tune via photopin (license)

10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Mary Lou Peters
    Feb 13, 2017 @ 08:30:33

    Just beautiful, Linda!



  2. bsunur
    Feb 13, 2017 @ 14:22:53

    I “Love” this Linda.



  3. Margie Edwards
    Feb 13, 2017 @ 17:31:30

    Great post Linda, Wouldn’t the world be different it more was done out of love?
    Hope you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day and sending lots of love your way.



  4. Susan Mikulay
    Feb 15, 2017 @ 08:34:50

    Such a beautiful sentiment about love’s journey, Linda. I cried!



  5. michael drescher
    Apr 20, 2017 @ 08:26:40

    love this❤❤thank you !



  6. Lisa M Veneroso
    Apr 20, 2017 @ 18:58:39

    Linda- I’m a life-long friend of Mary Louise Mussoline and am re-reading your article “The “ov” life hack” which I kept because of its beauty, intellect, insight, and love. I think your words resonate as the perfect gift and tribute to Mary Lou. Thank you. You’ve touched me deeply.
    Lisa Veneroso



    • Linda R Neff
      Apr 20, 2017 @ 20:52:27

      Oh Lisa, I can only imagine how your heart must be hurting to have lost a life-long heart friend like Mary Louise. Thank you for your kind words – being able to write after Mary Louise’s life celebration was balm for my soul. How wonderful and good to be in this world of love with one of Mary Louise’s heart friends – thank you.

      Sending you peace and comfort Lisa,




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