Stolen panache

Blue Ribbon 250x325Last week, on one of the first truly glorious spring days, I wrapped our front yard tree in teal netting adding a sparkly teal bow for a little extra panache in support of April being Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

Today however, felt more like a fall day than anything remotely spring. The wind was harsh, knocking and thrashing everything in its path violently to the ground.

My sparkly teal bow was no exception – it too had fallen casualty to the unrelenting force of the wind where I found it on the ground twisted in all of its panache.

The bow was a reminder of how in a split second of unrelenting force sexual assault, violence and rape occur – in the U.S. every 107 seconds. The violence is staggering:

  • 1 in 6 women are sexually assaulted
  • 1 in 33 men are sexually assaulted
  • 68% of sexual assaults go unreported
  • 98% of rapists will never spend a day in jail or prison

As parents and adults it is our job, as Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young sing, “to teach our children well.”

Teaching our boys and girls respect for all people.

Teaching our boys and girls that “no means no.”

Teaching our boys and girls by modeling what respect looks like in our own relationships.

It is incumbent upon us to do this teaching in order to end this epidemic of sexual violence and rape.

Everyone deserves to be treated with loving kindness and respect. Every beautiful being who has been victimized deserves to be believed – perhaps the purest form of loving kindness and respect each of us can extend to a sexual assault victim are the words “I believe you.” (Thank you TeamTeal365 for this sage advice.)

For additional resources, visit RAINN, the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network.

Go. Now. Teach.

Be the loving kindness and respect that honors everyone’s indigenous panache.


Statistics provided by RAINN


10988968_10153079087442250_3659471481402886534_nStanding together – arm-in-arm, shoulder-to-shoulder, side-by-side – speaking up and speaking out about sexual assault, sexual violence and human trafficking.

Standing together we have the power to support one another across communities and across cultures as sexual assault, sexual violence and human trafficking do not discriminate.

Standing together we each have the privilege of boldly voicing a commitment to survivors shouting:

“I stand with you. I stand for you.”

Throughout April, a month dedicated to Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention, Voices of Pearls will share resources working to address the issues of sexual assault, sexual violence and human trafficking.

RESOURCE: Should you need help for yourself or for someone else, RAINN, the nation’s largest anti-sexual assault organization, is an excellent confidential resource.

RESOURCE: National Sexual Assault Hotline – 800-656-HOPE (4673)

Today. Now. Always. “I stand with you. I stand for you.”